Are thoughts about past traumas intruding into your daily life? Are you being held back by experiences that are hard to talk about?
Although traumatic events are extremely common experiences that many people go through at some time or another, many people choose to live with the effects of their traumas rather than getting the help they need.
Whether you’re wanting to move forward in your life and get close to others but find yourself holding back, or you find yourself doing and feeling things that you can’t seem to help- like sabotaging yourself when you start to feel happy or successful, overanalyzing small details over and over again, or feeling numb and disconnected even as you go through the motions of your daily activities- unresolved traumatic experiences may be at the root of the problem. You may also feel confused about your relationships, wondering if they are healthy or unhealthy or why you can’t seem to move past situations that keep you stuck and unhappy. Trauma often leads people to pretend that everything’s okay even as they worry that something is really wrong.
It’s normal to have questions and fears about seeking help when you’ve been hurt, manipulated, or betrayed in the past.
You may wonder whether you’re going to have to talk about and relive painful memories in therapy, or you may be concerned about not knowing which feelings are going to come up or how it will feel to share things that you’re used to keeping inside. One of the important parts of trauma therapy is pacing; this means that you will always be able to decide when and if you want to talk about your trauma so that you won’t have to feel overwhelmed or out of control during the therapy process. There are clients who never have to give the "ugly details" but are able to heal and put the past in it's place by using step by step processes in communication and reprocessing other information that matches similar neuro-pathways.
Therapy can help you process traumatic memories, but also involves so much more, because people who have experienced trauma have beliefs about themselves and others that can be very limiting (for example, feelings of shame can lead you to believe that you are bad or unworthy; beliefs about others being unsafe or untrustworthy are common as well). Learning to take healthy risks in relationships and how to figure out the difference between safe relationships (in which it makes sense to let down your guard) versus manipulative or exploitative relationships (where it’s healthy to be cautious/guarded), is an important part of the therapy process that can help you protect yourself without becoming too disconnected from others or restricted in your life. Therapy can also help you become more secure about trusting your instincts and reactions so that you no longer doubt yourself as much or wonder if you’re overreacting to things. When you do feel ready to come for help, I am here for you with a safe, non-judgmental space for you to begin your healing journey.